Insight From a Friend

The struggle and challenge for all of us to stay focused on basing our self worth on our CHARACTER. This is the ONLY ever lasting food that will feed and maintain our self worth's. Why? B/c we alone CONTROL our character: How: responsible, self disciplined, honest, sincere, hard working, committed, respectful, honoring, self caring, emotionally courageous, motivated, accountable and sensitive we are. All that we have been taught to feed our self worth is EXTERNAL and we cannot control any of that. We are a society/culture that brainwashes people to be co-dependent either on other people or things.

We need other people for contentment with our surroundings and for contentment thru an emotionally intimate relationship. Material things can make life more comfortable that is all.

Counting on and recognizing that our CHARACTER is the key to self fulfillment and self contentment is where it is at!!!! This really DIFFICULT to wrap our heads around and to stay balanced, b/c of the distorted brainwashing we all underwent all of our lives.

Do Soulmates Exist?

Her First Love ... Part I

The first time she saw him she was astounded by the pull she felt towards his being. It was as if her very own soul was calling her; calling her home to a place of love. She had never experienced such a strong and sudden feeling like this in all her life. The emotion was a feeling of instant connectedness as if she had known this person since the day she was born. It was as though a veil had been lifted away from her eyes. A door to her soul which she didn't know existed suddenly opened. She was dumbfounded...

More signs... Or Perfect Timing

March 26, 2008 The Journey Of Commitment Entering Into Commitment Loving and committing to another person is a spiritual process whether that means a wedding or any other type of commitment ceremony. So often when we enter into a relationship we allow our emotions to lead us forward without thinking more deeply about what true commitment involves. If we can understand that sharing our lives with another person is not just based on love, but also on the hard work of being able to compromise and enter into a dialogue with them, then we are much more likely to find the key to having a successful relationship with our partners. So many people have not experienced a loving relationship between their own parents and therefore have no role model of what love should feel like or look like. Many of us have been exposed to the idea that love should be romantic and sweep us off our feet. While this is a natural part of any relationship, the true test of our love comes from our willingness to explore this world with another person; to not only share in the delights that we encounter but also to negotiate the bumps in the road together. Generally this often takes the form of a mutual exchange of ideas, but, because any relationship is based on the needs and experiences of two people, we might also face a certain amount of misunderstanding. Learning to be open and receptive to our partners and to treat their wants and ideas with respect can help us to navigate even the most difficult situations. One way to do this is to take a deep breath, holding our partner in a space of love, allowing ourselves to listen fully with our hearts to what they have to say. Should this become difficult to do, we can also turn toward people whose relationships we admire for advice or gu! idance. Knowing that there are resources out there to help us and being up for exploring them with our partner will only serve to deepen and strengthen our relationship. Entering into a committed relationship is in fact a spiritual journey that we undertake with another person. By being able to love and care for someone else with an open heart, we will find that we can reach a greater level of personal transformation, evolving along our path and learning powerful lessons about ourselves that we might not otherwise be able to do on our own.

Back to the Starting Line

Surrender/Relinquish/Resign

commitment- an agreement or pledge to do something in the future

Destiny- a predetermined course of events often held to be an irresistible power or agency

Fate- the will or principle or determining cause by which things in general are believed to come to be as they are or events to happen as they do

Faith- 1 a: allegiance to duty or a person b: fidelity to one's promises
2 a: firm belief in something for which there is no proof b: complete trust

Belief- 1: a state or habit of mind in which trust or confidence is placed in some person or thing
2: conviction of the truth of some statement or the reality of some being or phenomenon especially when based on examination of evidence

Trust- 1 a: to place confidence 2 a: dependence on something future or contingent

Something Concrete

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Gray is OK

Shades of Gray

I had a moment of self discovery last weekend while flying home from Colorado . I realized that my black or white thinking might need to be altered a bit. I am starting to learn that sometimes there are gray areas in life. Some answers might not fit the categories of: yes or no, right or wrong, now or never, all or nothing. But maybe sometimes situations or circumstances might fall into that “gray zone”. That in between space in which something can’t be categorized as a definite measurable time, thing or answer. But really I suppose that is all of life. No one truly knows what the future holds. We can only hope for the best, set some goals and dreams but even they have to be changed or altered. I guess the logical thing to do is to just accept how are life is and really appreciate those simple little things that bring us enjoyment. It doesn’t benefit anyone when they dwell on the past and think about what could have been. And it is certainly a waste of time worrying about what might be in the future. The gray zone in life appears to be NOW. The present moment. The in between of being born and dying. Peace is only going to come to me from living in the now and letting go of the past and future.